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Internal Family Systems: Trauma Therapy in Richmond, Virginia
Healing from trauma is a deeply personal journey that requires a compassionate and innovative approach. At Seeking Depth, our licensed therapists use Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy to offer a new perspective on understanding our inner world and untangling complex narratives. Unlike traditional therapeutic models, IFS focuses on the finding that every aspect of ourselves, regardless of the behaviors it has led to, originally developed with a positive intention. We have seen firsthand that this insight into your own unique inner world can provide a gentle path to understanding and healing our most complex emotional experiences.
What is IFS and How Does it Work?
When is IFS Used?
Is This Approach Backed by Science?
Ego-States vs IFS
What Can I Expect From an IFS Therapy Session?
IFS vs Family Systems
Considering IFS Treatment in Henrico, VA?
What is IFS and How Does it Work?
Internal Family Systems Therapy is a non-pathologizing way to safely reprocesses trauma and reorganize our worldviews around safety, connection, and sense of purpose. This is done by creating an internal environment of healthy communication and witnessing among our Ego-States (also called subpersonalities or "parts".) Unlike traditional therapeutic approaches that might seek to suppress or eliminate challenging emotional experiences, IFS embraces these different parts with compassion and curiosity. From them, we can learn a lot about our perspectives, emotions, and motivations.
Imagine your mind as a sophisticated ecosystem, where multiple aspects of your personality interact dynamically. At the center is your Wise Self – often called the core self – a calm, compassionate, and centered part of you that serves as the core of your internal system. Surrounding this core are various parts that have developed specific roles to protect you, manage your experiences, and navigate life's challenges. The fundamental premise of the IFS model is that every part of you has a positive intention, even if its current strategies for protection are no longer serving you effectively. These parts aren't problems to be solved, but rather internal team members we can learn to work with who are just doing their best to help you survive and thrive.
My specialty areas include accessing nonverbal trauma states to help clients reprocess trauma safely and achieve a sustained sense of calm. Ready to book your first appointment?
When Is IFS Used?
IFS therapy is particularly effective in addressing a wide range of mental health challenges and unraveling traumatic experiences.
Here are some specefic cases where IFS may be beneficial:
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Complex trauma and PTSD
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Anxiety and depression
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Relationship difficulties
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Addiction and compulsive behaviors
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Low self-esteem
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Childhood emotional neglect
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Chronic stress and burnout
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Grief and loss
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Identity and personal growth challenges
An IFS therapist can help individuals understand the intricate ways their protective parts have developed strategies to keep them safe, even when these strategies might be causing additional stress or limiting personal growth. With time and support, getting to know your different parts can give you back a sense of control and understanding over your emotions and behaviors.
Is This Approach Backed by Science?
Neurological research supports the concept of compartmentalization that IFS describes. The scientific foundation of IFS is rooted in our understanding of how the brain processes traumatic and emotional experiences.
Key scientific principles include:
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Right-brain emotional processing: Emotional memories are stored differently from verbal memories; (Schore, A. N. (2012). The Science of the Art of Psychotherapy)
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Neuroplasticity: Our brain can rewire and heal through compassionate, targeted interventions; (Doidge, N. (2007). The Brain That Changes Itself)
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Trauma's neurological impact: Traumatic experiences create specific neural pathways that can be gently restructured; (van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma)
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Polyvagal theory: Understanding how our nervous system responds to safety and threat; (Porges, S. W. (2011). The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-Regulation)
Modern neuroscience confirms what IFS practitioners have long understood: our brain creates protective mechanisms in response to perceived threats, and these mechanisms can be transformed through compassionate, targeted therapeutic approaches.
My specialty area is in complex, relational, and developmental trauma in adults and adolescents. Through our sessions I can help you move out of a dissociative state and back into your body. Ready to book your first appointment?
Ego-States vs IFS
Ego-states are like characters in a complex drama, each with its own role, motivation, and perspective. Conflicting emotions, knee-jerk reactions, moments of immaturity, and many other moments in our lives can be better understood by getting to know each of our inner characters. Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy explores how these different parts interact, communicate, and ultimately impact your core self. Rather than viewing these parts as conflicting or problematic, IFS sees them as intelligent, well-intentioned aspects of your inner system, each trying to protect and support you in its own unique way.
What are Ego-States?
Ego-states reference the compartmentalization of our personality. Although we tend to think of our personality and sense of self as this all-encompassing, cohesive structure of likes, dislikes, hobbies, quirks, and experiences, it's actually a bit more complicated. Our personality is more like a galaxy with multiple interconnected parts.
The scientific community acknowledges this compartmentalization. When emotionally intolerable events occur, our brain naturally withholds painful information from crossing the neurological bridge (corpus callosum) from the right hemisphere of the brain to the left hemisphere. The right hemisphere holds our emotional experiences, whereas the left hemisphere provides a sense of context through a linear narrative. This compartmentalization within the right hemisphere leads to the creation of emotional memories – memories remembered through a feelings state, rather than a verbal or conscious recollection.
Have you ever experienced moments that suggest these compartmentalized memories? Consider these common experiences:
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Meeting someone you immediately disliked without knowing why
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Overreacting to something seemingly minor
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Feeling like a child despite being in an adult's body
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Suddenly flying into a rage
These are examples of how our emotional memories play an active role in our lives, whether we acknowledge them or not.
The Landscape of Our Inner Worlds
Our brain creates complex emotional memories, especially from experiences before we developed language (around age 3). These memories aren't just stored; they're deeply embedded, often associated with threatening body sensations and overwhelming emotions.
Types of Ego-States
Exiles: The Wounded Parts
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Hold painful, shameful, or traumatic experiences
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Feel too overwhelming to be directly confronted
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Carry unprocessed emotional memories
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Often originate from early childhood experiences of neglect or hurt
Protective Parts: Our Internal Defense Mechanism
Managers: Proactive Protectors
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Prevent potential emotional harm
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Use strategies like:
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Intellectualizing emotions
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Avoiding triggering situations
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Displaying perfectionism
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Becoming hyper-productive
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Developing co-dependent relationships
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Firefighters: Reactive Protectors
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Emerge when Managers fail to contain emotional pain
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Use extreme methods to quickly extinguish emotional experiences:
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Substance abuse
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Impulsive behaviors
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Risky sexual encounters
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Emotional outbursts
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The Inner Dynamics: A Practical Example
Consider the infamous Inner Child – an Exile who holds experiences of neglect, of not being seen or heard in the way they needed. Because neglect threatens survival, Protector Parts shield the core self from this overwhelming experience. To protect this vulnerable part, other ego-states develop:
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Inner Critic (Manager): Generates negative self-talk to prevent potential mistakes
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Peace Maker (Secondary Protector): Attempts to minimize pain by forcing positivity
This interaction reveals a critical insight: our internal parts are interconnected, each trying to protect us, but sometimes recreating the very trauma they seek to avoid.
The goal isn't to eliminate these parts, but to understand their intentions and create a more compassionate internal dialogue.
IFS: A Compassionate Approach to Ego-States Integration
You may be asking yourself, "How do I get ride of my ego-states?" The answer is, you can't. In the IFS model, the goal isn't to eliminate these parts but to create harmonious integration. An IFS therapist helps you explore each part's intention, finding more constructive ways to meet their underlying needs. The aim is to help protective parts feel safe, allowing Exiles to feel less overwhelming and your core self to lead with wisdom and compassion.
What Can I Expect From an IFS Therapy Session?
An IFS therapy session is far more than a traditional counseling experience – it's a deeply personal journey of self-exploration and compassionate understanding. Your IFS therapist serves as a gentle guide, creating a supportive environment where you'll learn to listen to the different parts of yourself with curiosity and kindness.
During these transformative sessions, you'll embark on an inner adventure that might feel both profound and surprisingly gentle.
You'll learn to:
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Recognize the unique voices within your internal system
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Understand the protective intentions behind your most challenging behaviors
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Develop a compassionate dialogue with parts of yourself you may have previously ignored or battled against
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Uncover the wisdom and strength of your core self
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Heal old emotional wounds with tenderness and respect
Practical techniques might include guided visualization, where you'll learn to internally communicate with different aspects of your personality, emotional processing that feels more like a supportive conversation than traditional therapy, and developing self-compassion skills that extend far beyond the therapy room. Your therapist will help you build trust with your internal parts, creating a sense of internal teamwork and harmony that can transform how you experience yourself and the world around you.
This isn't about fixing something broken, but about understanding and integrating the rich, complex landscape of your inner experience. Each session is a step towards greater self-understanding, emotional freedom, and internal peace.
Internal Family Systems vs. Family Systems
IFS is not the same as family therapy which looks at the real-world dynamics between family members. IFS is a way of understanding one's own thoughts, reactions, fears, impulses etc by thinking about our minds as containing different "players" or "family members." Family therapy helps family members understand their own and each other's roles within the larger "family system."
Considering IFS Trauma Treatment in Henrico, VA?
Seeking Depth to Recovery uses IFS as a transformative approach to healing trauma that goes beyond symptom management.
If you're in Richmond or the Henrico County area and seeking a profound, innovative approach to mental health and trauma recovery, Internal Family Systems might be the therapeutic path you've been searching for and we are ready to support you.
Remember, healing is not about eliminating parts of yourself, but about creating understanding, compassion, and collaboration within your internal system. We are here to support you whenever you're ready.
More Internal Family Systems Resources
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How Effective Is SE For Treating Trauma And PTSD?Research has found SE to be very effective in treating trauma survivors. According to the European Journal of Psychotraumatology, Somatic Experiencing can help alleviate both mental and physical symptoms of trauma.
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Do You Accept Insurance For SE Therapy?Insurance does not cover the cost of a therapy intensive. However, many do provide out-of-network coverage. You will need to call the number Member Services number on the back of your insurance card to confirm your benefits. Our approach to trauma treatment is more effective than traditional therapy and therefore require fewer sessions. Contact us for more information about the right treatment plan for your unique needs.
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How Does SE Differ From Other Somatic Therapies?While both SE and other somatic therapies focus on the mind-body connection, SE specifically targets the body's physiological responses to trauma, aiming to complete interrupted survival responses and release stored energy. Other somatic therapies, like Somatic Inquiry or Somatic Movement Therapy might incorporate different techniques or philosophies but share the common goal of integrating bodily awareness into the healing process.
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What Can I Expect During A Somatic Experiencing Session?During an SE session, the therapist will guide you to focus on your body's sensations, helping you become aware of areas where trauma may be stored. This process involves observing physical sensations, emotions, and movements to facilitate the release of pent-up energy associated with traumatic experiences.
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How Many Sessions Are Typically Required For SE Treatment?The number of sessions varies depending on individual circumstances, the nature of the trauma, and personal healing goals. Some individuals may experience relief after a few sessions, while others might benefit from longer-term therapy. Reach out to us to discuss your specific needs and goals.
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Do You Accept Insurance?Insurance does not cover the cost of a therapy intensive. However, many do provide out-of-network coverage. You will need to call the number Member Services number on the back of your insurance card to confirm your benefits. Our approach to trauma treatment is more effective than traditional therapy and therefore require fewer sessions. Contact us for more information about the right treatment plan for your unique needs.
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What Should I Expect During A Therapy Session?Trauma therapy is about safety first. All trauma survivors know how to be in trauma without the proper resources. Trauma therapy is about developing the resources we needed that we didn’t have when we endured such traumatic experiences. Primarily, this includes a visceral belief that that part of your life is over, a witness to hold with you the scary emotions associated with what you’ve been through, and an internalization of how it feels to be seen so that you can begin to “see” the wounded parts of you. Each trauma therapist brings their own individual style and training into the space with you, while you bring your own unique nervous system. You can except to collaborate with your therapist throughout your relationship with us – you’re the Captain and we’re Second in Command. You can also check out our Video Resources to sample how it might be to work with us.
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What Types Of Trauma Can Be Addressed In Therapy?Trauma therapy refers to creating an integrated experience between what the body remembers and what the mind remembers. Whatever your trauma history is, we will support you in establishing a cohesive narrative between these two types of memories. We are highly skilled in the treatment of preverbal and nonverbal traumas – such as attachment trauma and other childhood traumas. We also treat relational trauma, sexual trauma, and shock trauma – such as natural disasters, accidents, and assaults. Trauma therapy is also highly effective for anxiety, depression, and mood disorders, as the focus is on bringing regulation to the nervous system.
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Are There Specialized Trauma Therapists In Richmond, VA?Yes, Richmond has several specialized trauma therapists. Adrienne Loker, LCSW, EMDR + SE Therapist is a national trauma recovery expert who has developed her own Somatically-Centered EMDR protocol to increase the efficacy and efficiency of trauma treatment. She manages a team of trauma specialists who are trained in a variety of cutting edge trauma treatments, including EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, and Internal Family Systems.
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How Do I Know If I Need Trauma Therapy?Don’t wait for a crisis to begin trauma therapy. The best time to start trauma therapy is before things get out of hand. If you have the experience of feeling like you’re too much, not enough, worthless, innately broken, or invisible, you may be experiencing the echoes of nonverbal trauma. Additional symptoms that might mean it’s time for trauma therapy include unmanageable anxiety, intrusive thoughts, feeling like your body doesn’t belong to you, difficulty relating to others, feelings of anhedonia or apathy, or painful perfectionism.
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Do You Accept Insurance For IFS Therapy?We do not participate with any Richmond insurance companies for the coverage of treatment, but some providers cover out-of-network care. However, our treatment plans are designed to be more effective than traditional therapy and therefore require fewer sessions. Contact us for more information about the right treatment plan for your unique needs.
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How do I find an IFS therapist in Richmond, VA?It's important to make sure that your therapist is qualified to provide treatment using IFS. Many licensed therapists have additional training that prepares them to guide clients through an IFS approach. At Seeking Depth to Recovery, we can help match you with the right therapist for you.
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How Many IFS Sessions Are Typically Needed?The number of sessions varies depending on individual needs and the complexity of the issues being addressed. It's best to discuss this with your therapist to develop a personalized treatment plan.
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How Effective Is IFS For Treating Trauma, PTSD, And Other Mental Health Issues?IFS is frequently used as an evidence-based psychotherapy, helping people heal by accessing and healing their protective and wounded inner parts.It has been effective in treating conditions like PTSD, depression, and anxiety.
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Can IFS Therapy Be Integrated With Other Therapeutic Approaches?Yes, IFS therapy has been known to work well alongside other modalities like EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, Polyvagal-Informed Therapy, and CBT.
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How Effective Is EMDR For Treating PTSD And Trauma?EMDR therapy is recognized as an effective treatment for trauma and is recommended worldwide in the practice guidelines of both domestic and international organizations. Here at Seeking Depth, we've seen first-hand how effective and lasting the results can be for those overcoming symptoms of trauma.
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How Many EMDR Sessions Are Typically Needed?The number of sessions varies depending on the individual and the complexity of the trauma. For single incident traumas, usually 8-12 sessions of 90 minutes each are required. For more complex trauma, the treatment is more complex and takes longer, usually about 12-18 months. Your therapist will talk with you more about your individual needs on an ongoing basis.
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How Should I Prepare For An Intensive EMDR Session?To prepare for an intensive EMDR session, dress comfortably, plan to have a calm and replenishing rest of the day, and consider what support you might need afterward.
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Do You Accept Insurance For EMDR Therapy?We do not participate with any Richmond insurance companies for the coverage of treatment, but some providers cover out-of-network care. However, our treatment plans are designed to be more effective than traditional therapy and therefore require fewer sessions. In fact, a single EMDR session can be as effective as an entire year of CBT.
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Are Seeking Depth Therapists Qualified EMDR Practitioners?Yes, we have a number of EMDR certified therapists working in Richmond, VA.
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Can EMDR therapy be integrated with other therapeutic approaches?Yes, EMDR can work powerfully alongside other therapeutic approaches such as IFS, CBT, Somatic Experiencing, and more. Your therapist can help you decide on the right path for your healing.
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Is somatic therapy better than EMDR?There is no "better" or "worse" in therapy. Rather, we look at what's most effective, which is dependent on the individual nervous system that we're working with. All of our clinicians have training in somatic-based methods, which is then integrated into their preferred modality. Because EMDR is a popular buzz word, we receive a lot of inquiries for this modality. However, recipients of EMDR can sometimes feel that it is too much too fast. Our providers often pump the brakes to engage in more somatic-based or parts-work oriented approaches to prepare the nervous system for EMDR reprocessing. This is done so that the experience is geared toward healing and not harm. We utilize multiple somatic therapies within our practice, which are heavily informed by Polyvagal Theory. If you haven't done so already, we recommend reading about it here: https://www.seekingdepthtorecovery.com/polyvagal-theory-trauma-therapy
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Do you accept insurance?We provide clients superbills to submit to their insurances for reimbursement. Insurance does not cover the cost of coaching, substance use interventions, or drug monitoring. We recommend calling your insurance carrier to get a detailed answer on what they will cover with an out-of-network provider.
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Can you tell me more about EMDR?Absolutely. EMDR is a powerful trauma reprocessing tool that works wonders with singular event trauma, such as a car accident or an attack. With relational and complex trauma, it works best when integrated with other modalities, such as somatic-based therapies (like Somatic Experiencing) or ego-state therapies (like Internal Family Systems). You can read more about the mechanics of EMDR here: https://www.seekingdepthtorecovery.com/emdr-trauma-therapy-richmond-va
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Do you all have a waitlist?Our caseloads ebb and flow, and we do our best to keep from having a long waitlist. Currently, we do have availability for adolescent and adult clients. Please note, Adrienne Loker, LCSW is not accepting new clients for therapy, but is available to facilitate substance use interventions. You will find that all of our practitioners possess advanced training and skillsets to help you meet your goals.
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Do you provide couples or family therapy?Yes, we provide individual, couples, family, and group therapy. We work with ages 6 years old throughout the lifespan.
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